Courage is saying, “Maybe what I’m doing isn’t working; maybe I should try something else.” — Anna Lappe
Sex therapy is a specialized area of psychotherapy. Going to a Certified Sex Therapist for a sexual concern is like seeing a cardiologist for a heart problem instead of just relying on a general practitioner. As with any psychotherapy, it is primarily talk therapy along with, usually, some kinds of homework (or as I prefer to call it, “homeplay”) assignments. Also, as with any psychotherapy, there is never any disrobing, sexual touching or sexual activity of any kind.
There is, however, frank, open, honest talk about sexual problems, confusion, feelings, shame issues and personal sexual activity. I provide a very safe and open environment to put you at ease in talking about such personal areas.
Because of my extensive training and experience, resulting in my AASECT Board Certified Sex Therapist designation, I have much greater knowledge about sexual issues than non-Certified Sex Therapists. I begin by listening to you, learning about your difficulties, past experiences and progression to your current issues.
I have a thorough sexual history form you (and your partner, if applicable) can take home and answer at your leisure and in privacy so that I can learn more about your family/cultural/religious influences, your early sexual experiences, your interactions with yourself and partners, your likes and dislikes, and the challenges in your relationships. This information is obviously helpful to me, but also starts you thinking about your issues in a more global way, from biological, psychological, social and cultural perspectives.
Together we will formulate a plan for change and improvement, then meet regularly, weekly at first, to work toward achieving your goals. I never expect you to do anything you aren’t comfortable with, and frequently check in to make sure we are on track and getting you the results you desire.
The course of therapy usually lasts from 5-12 sessions, and can include:
• Practicing better sexual communication skills
• Touching exercises with yourself and/or your partner that you do at home to undo negative patterns and improve understanding of you and your partner’s erogenous zones.
• Methods to reduce the pressure to perform during sex
• Reading books about sexuality.
This is a team effort – nearly all sexual problems are affected by your interaction with your partner – so I try to get all of us working together to help you achieve the satisfying sex life you want and deserve.
We all need help sometimes. Get out of the cycle of trying and failing through your own methods. Escape the trap that is keeping you from living the life you want and deserve. Call me at 949-338-9525
