How Can I Help?

Woman in Field

Calling today is the first step on the path to a happier, healthier and more satisfying life.

Here’s how I can help you live the life you want:

Show you how to decrease or stop the harmful behavior immediately. As you already know, this will have to be the first step to getting your life back.

Identify and reduce stress. Addiction is stressful, change is stressful, life is stressful. Learning to live with this idea, and learning how to manage the stress is paramount to your success.

Explore expectations regarding what the change will entail.

Offer a menu of options for change.
Help identify pros and cons of various change options.

Support a realistic view of change through small steps.

Help you to identify high-risk situations and develop coping strategies.

Assist you in finding new reinforcers of positive change.

Teach you to identify and try alternative positive behaviors (substance and harmful behavior-free sources of pleasure).

Maintain supportive contact.

Work to set new short and long term goals.

Stop making excuses and finding reasons to delay making the changes you know are essential for you to get your life back. Call me for a phone consultation: 949-338-9525

Learn More:

Freedom From the Addiction Trap

“Am I an Addict?”

“Am I Crazy, Mentally Ill, Different than Others?”

12 Step Groups?

Sexual Issues

Do you and your partner argue about sex? Or avoid talking about it?
Do you have orgasms less frequently than you’d like?
Do you avoid sex because it will probably turn out to be a negative experience?
Is your use of pornography, or your partner’s, interfering with the frequency or quality of sex?
Has sex become routine, boring or unsatisfying?
Has there been infidelity, physically, emotionally, and/or "virtually" in your relationship?

I am a Board Certified Sex Therapist and can help you have the sex life you desire – help you change negative thoughts about sex – help you reverse fears and unwanted patterns that have led to relationship problems, physical dysfunction, and poor or no sex.

Sex Addiction and/or Porn Addiction

If you’re concerned about sex or porn addiction, I can help you make sense of your behaviors and your feelings about them, and get you on the road to change.

If you've been trying to control your activities yourself and repeatedly fail, you need to talk to someone with extensive experience treating addictions, as well as a Certified Sex Therapist who understands the dynamics of sexuality – our past experiences, our family and cultural messages, significance of sexual abuse and trauma, and the shame involved with out-of-control sexual behavior.

Talk With Someone Who Understands

I welcome diversity!

I am proud to live in a country with so much diversity and acceptance of those different than ourselves. I both enjoy and have had much success working with individuals and couples of many different ethnicities, religions, sexual orientations and identities. I welcome all into my practice and always strive to learn from my clients and help them in ways in which they are most comfortable. I don't judge and I believe that our personal/cultural beliefs and viewpoints are our strengths, not our weaknesses.

Additionally, I'm kink friendly and knowledgeable. Kinky folks, of course, have the same kinds of sexual and personal issues others have, and a few more that are specific to the kinky world, scene, lifestyle, relationships and other personal situations. In me you'll find an experienced, understanding, non-judgemental and effective therapist to help you overcome your challenges.